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Cancer treatment can cause physical and emotional changes that might affect your desire for sex. These changes might also make it harder to engage in your preferred sexual activity. But there are steps you can take to deal with these changes so that you can have a satisfying sex life.
If you have concerns about sex or intimacy during or after cancer treatment, you might need to be the one to bring it up with your cancer care team or gynecologist.
Studies show that health professionals don’t always ask or talk about the sexual side effects certain cancer treatments can cause. Don’t assume your doctor or nurse will ask you about sex or intimacy problems. But these issues are still important, even if your health care team doesn’t bring them up.
Remember, if they don't know you have a problem, they can't help you manage it. If you aren’t getting the information you need, you can always ask for a referral to a specialist. The information below can help you start the conversation with your health care team.
The information below describes common sexual problems faced by adult women (or people with female reproductive organs*) after certain types of cancer treatment. You might have problems or needs that aren’t addressed here. Your cancer care team can help you manage your specific situation.
*To learn more about the gender terms used here, and how to start the conversation with your cancer care team about gender identity and sexual orientation, see Gender Identity, Sexual Orientation, and Cancer Treatment.
Certain types of cancer treatment can cause premature or early menopause.
Menopause happens when your ovaries stop making enough female hormones. This most often takes place when you are in your 50s. But some cancer treatments might make you go through menopause at a younger age.
Symptoms of premature menopause are the same as for natural menopause. These can include:
Female hormones (estrogen and/or progesterone) are sometimes used to help manage menopause symptoms. This is called menopausal hormone therapy. It comes in the form of a pill, patch, or less often, a vaginal ring.
Some women with cancer might not be able to take these hormones.
If you have breast, endometrial, or ovarian cancer, your doctor may advise against hormone therapy. That is because hormones might promote the growth of these types of cancer. If you can’t take hormone therapy, there may be other treatments to help you manage your symptoms.
If you have questions or concerns about hormone therapy, talk with your cancer care team. If you and your team decide menopausal hormone therapy is the best treatment for you, be sure you understand what to watch for while you take it. It’s important that you have regular checkups so that your dose can be changed if needed.
If you have dryness, narrowing, or other changes in your vagina, you might have pain during sex. This is called dyspareunia. You might feel pain in your vagina itself or in the tissues around it, like your bladder and rectum.
The most common cause of pain during sex is vaginal dryness or narrowing from cancer treatment. The walls of your vagina might also get thinner and less stretchy.
If your cancer treatment includes hormone therapy or radiation to the pelvis, or if you’ve gone through premature menopause, your body might not create enough natural lubricant or moisture to make your vagina slippery. This can cause irritation or pain during sex. You might also be more likely to get bladder infections.
If you have pelvic surgery or radiation to your pelvis, your vagina might become shorter and narrower. This can also make sex painful or awkward.
Having sex might take some planning. These tips may help lessen your pain and make sex more enjoyable.
Vaginal dryness can be caused by premature (or regular) menopause or by treatments that affect your pelvic organs. There are hormonal and non-hormonal treatments that might help you manage this dryness.
If you have dryness, vaginal lubricants can help make sex more comfortable. There are several different options, including water-based, silicone, and oil-based lubricants. Place them in and around your vagina before vaginal penetration. You can also use lubrication suppositories (soft gel pellets) that melt during foreplay.
You can find lubricants near the birth control or feminine hygiene products in pharmacies or grocery stores. Be sure to read the labels, and talk with a nurse, doctor, or pharmacist if you have questions.
Many women with cancer who have vaginal dryness use vaginal moisturizers several times per week. Vaginal moisturizers help keep your vagina and vulva moist and more comfortable. For the best absorption, apply these at bedtime.
Vaginal moisturizers do not replace lubricants for sexual activity because they do not make your vagina slippery enough to ease penetration.
Vaginal estrogen therapy is sometimes used to treat vaginal dryness, narrowing, and atrophy (when the vaginal walls get thinner and less stretchy).
Vaginal hormones are applied to the genital area. They come in gel, cream, suppository, ring, and tablet forms. Most are put into the vagina, although some creams can be applied to your vulva (the outer part of your vagina).
Vaginal hormones provide small amounts of hormones to your vagina and nearby tissues. Studies show that very little of these hormones get into the bloodstream, so they should have little effect on other parts of your body.
However, if you have concerns about taking vaginal hormones, be sure to talk to your cancer care team. Ask them why they think vaginal hormones are a safe option for you. You can also ask about other treatment options that don’t include hormones.
Radiation to your pelvis can damage the walls of the vagina, leaving them scarred and less flexible. This can cause your vagina to get narrower and shorter. Some types of surgery can also cause changes in the length and width of your vagina.
Changes like these to your vagina can make sex and internal exams painful or even impossible. Using dilators and having pelvic physical therapy might help deal with these problems.
Vaginal dilators help keep your vagina open and more flexible after cancer treatment. If you have had radiation or surgery to your pelvis, your doctor or cancer care team may encourage you to use dilators to prevent problems. Even if you aren’t interested in being sexually active, keeping your vagina normal in size allows more comfortable gynecologic exams.
Vaginal dilators come in various widths. You can increase the dilator size as your vagina is able to stretch more. Vibrators can also be used as vaginal dilators and may improve blood flow.
Dilators can also help you learn to relax your vaginal muscles if they are used with Kegel exercises. These exercises help teach you how to control your pelvic floor and vaginal muscles.
Your doctor or nurse will tell you where to buy a dilator. Check with your insurance company to find out if you need a prescription.
You will also be taught when to start using it, and how and when to use it. The dilator feels much like putting in a large tampon for a few minutes. It can be used several times a week to keep your vagina from getting tight from scar tissue that may develop.
Pelvic floor physical therapy teaches you how to relax your vaginal muscles so that you have less pain during sex. It is also sometimes used as part of treatment for vaginal narrowing.
If you’ve had pain during sex, you may tense the muscles inside your vagina without knowing it. This makes vaginal penetration even more painful. You might even clench your muscles so tightly that your partner cannot enter your vagina.
You can become aware of your vaginal muscles and learn to relax them during vaginal penetration. Exercises that teach control of the pelvic floor and vaginal muscles are called Kegels.
Ask your cancer care team or gynecologist to refer you to a therapist for pelvic physical therapy or pelvic rehabilitation.
Some women report trouble having an orgasm during or after cancer treatment. There are some things you can try that might help.
If you continue to have trouble with orgasms, you might find sex therapy or counseling helpful. There are different techniques they can teach you. Ask your cancer care team or gynecologist for a referral.
Sexual desire can be affected by cancer and cancer treatment. If you are worried, depressed, nauseous (sick to your stomach), having pain, or experiencing fatigue, you may not feel like having sex. Cancer treatments that disturb the normal hormone balance in your body can also lessen your desire for sex.
Anyone going through cancer treatment might lose interest in sexual activity, at least for a time. You might not feel like it’s a priority while you are getting treated. But for most people, this is temporary.
Once you finish treatment and have recovered, your desire for sex and intimacy will most likely return. If you continue to have problems, think about seeing a therapist who has experience working with people with cancer.
Some side effects of cancer and cancer treatment can lower your desire for sex while you have them.
Pain can make you feel worried, depressed, or easily discouraged. If you have these feelings, you may find it hard to get excited about sexual activity.
Other side effects from cancer and cancer treatment can also lower your desire for sex, including:
Cancer treatments that lower your hormone levels can reduce your desire for sex.
For example, treatment for some breast and endometrial cancers often includes hormone therapy to lower estrogen levels because estrogen can fuel the growth of these cancers.
The goal of hormone therapy is to starve the cancer cells of female hormones. This slows the growth of the cancer.
A decreased desire for sex (libido) is the most common sexual side effect of hormone treatment.
Hormone therapy may also cause physical changes, such as:
Ask your cancer care team about possible side effects and how to manage them.
Your emotions about cancer and treatment can also affect your interest in sex and your ability to be intimate with your partner.
You might feel:
Your partner might also have many of the same emotions. Talk with each other about your feelings and concerns, including how they might affect your sexual desire and response. Keeping these feelings to yourself can get in the way of being intimate, both physically and emotionally.
If your emotions about cancer and cancer treatment are making it hard for you to be intimate, talk to your cancer care team or gynecologist. They will have resources to help you, or they can refer you to a counselor or sex therapist.
Any type of cancer or cancer treatment can affect your desire for sex, at least temporarily. But some cancers and treatments are more likely to cause significant or long-term changes to the way you experience sex and intimacy.
An ostomy is a surgical opening made to help with a body function. The opening itself is called a stoma.
There are ways to reduce the effect of an ostomy on your sex life.
Learn more in Ostomies.
Surgery or radiation therapy for head and neck cancers can lead to changes in how you look and breathe. These changes may affect how you feel about being intimate with another person.
Some cancers of the head and neck are treated by removing part of the bone structure of the face. This can change your appearance. Surgery on the jaw, mouth, or tongue can also change the way you look and talk. Facial reconstruction can help you regain a more normal look and clearer speech.
Some people with head and neck cancer will need to have part of their airway removed.
During sex, a partner may be startled at first by breath that hits at a strange spot. If you or your partner find this distracting, a scarf, necklace, or turtleneck can help hide the stoma cover.
If you are concerned about food odors coming from your stoma, it might help to avoid garlic or spicy foods and wear perfume.
Sometimes, problems speaking can make it hard to communicate during sex. If you learn to speak using your esophagus, this can make talking during sex less of an issue. A speech aid or electronic voice box built into the stoma might also work well.
Learn more in Ostomies.
Treatment for some cancers can include surgically removing (amputating) a limb, such as an arm or leg.
If you’ve lost a limb, you may wonder whether to wear your artificial limb (prosthesis) during sex. Sometimes the prosthesis helps with positioning and ease of movement. Talk with your partner about what works best for the two of you.
Learn more in Prostheses.
Sometimes friends and partners withdraw when a person has cancer. This can be out of fear or uncertainty. It can help to talk with your partner about how each of you is feeling.
Sexual touching between you and your partner is always possible. It may just be different than before you got treated for cancer. It may be easy to forget this, especially if you’re both feeling down or have not had sex for a while.
Keep in mind that you might need extra help with the changes caused by cancer. Counseling and sex therapy may be good options.
Cancer surgery and treatment can affect your appearance.
Your surgical scars may be visible. You might lose the hair on your head, or less often, your eyebrows, eyelashes, and pubic hair. If you have breast cancer, you may lose one or both breasts. You might gain or lose weight and muscle. You might have skin rashes or other changes to your skin and nails.
Changes you see or feel in your body might make you doubt that others will find you attractive. This might make you afraid to initiate or agree to sex.
You can find more tips on feeling good about yourself in How to Look Your Best During Cancer Treatment.
You might find it hard to be as spontaneous as you used to be. Try setting up time with your partner to relax, enjoy one another’s company, and talk about what you each would like sexually. Just as you learned to enjoy sex when you first started having it, you can learn how to feel pleasure again during and after cancer treatment.
Masturbation is not a required step in resuming your sex life, but it might help. It can help you find out where you are tender or sore and what kind of touch you enjoy. Sharing this information can help you and your partner decide what next steps to take.
Depending on your situation, you may feel a little shy bringing up sex. It might be hard to let your partner know you would like more physical closeness or that you’re anxious about having sex. But these conversations are an important step toward resuming a fulfilling sex life. So be as clear and direct as you can.
If you still have some pain or feel weak from cancer treatment, you might want to try new positions. Many couples have found one favorite position, particularly for vaginal penetration, and rarely try another. Talk to your partner and learn different ways to enjoy sex that are most comfortable. The drawings below are some ideas for positions that may help as you resume sex.
There's no one position that's right for everyone. You and your partner can work together to find what’s best for you. Pillows can help as supports. Keeping a sense of humor can always lighten the mood.
Many health care professionals, including cancer doctors and nurses, have little training in sexuality issues. Depending on the problems you are having, you might be referred to a different kind of specialist.
A gynecologist is a medical doctor who specializes in female health issues, including sexual and reproductive function and diseases of the reproductive organs. They can see if you have any physical problems that are making sex difficult and suggest ways to deal with any sexual problems.
An endocrinologist is an expert in how hormones work in the body. If the most likely cause of a sexual problem is a hormone imbalance, an endocrinologist may be able to help.
There are many different programs and specialists that can help you find the answers you need. Ask your cancer care team or primary care provider for referrals to specialists who can help you.
There are also health care professionals who can help you understand and manage the emotions that affect your sex life. Options include:
Some cancer centers have experts on staff who can assess and treat sexual problems. Ask your cancer care team if your center offers any programs or where else you can get help.
Sex therapy is psychotherapy or counseling that focuses on solving a sexual problem.
Sex therapists may practice in a clinic or alone. Look for a sex therapist who is a licensed mental health professional (a psychiatrist, psychologist, social worker, or psychiatric clinical nurse specialist or nurse practitioner) with special training in treating sexual problems.
Psychotherapy can help you feel better about the changes in your body, help you and your partner communicate more clearly, and give you skills to better cope with your cancer and treatment. Couples counseling may be helpful, too.
Finding a well-qualified mental health professional is important. These are some of the different types of mental health professionals:
Professional societies can often give you information about their members in your area who have special training in sex therapy. These are good places to start:
You can also get a listing of professionals in your area by contacting your state’s psychological association or a state association for licensed marriage and family therapists.
The cost of counseling varies with the professional’s level of training and experience. Insurance coverage for counseling varies depending on the health insurance plan. Check with your insurance company to find out if your plan will pay for counseling and how much of the cost it will cover.
Developed by the American Cancer Society medical and editorial content team with medical review and contribution by the American Society of Clinical Oncology (ASCO).
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